“I’ll tell you one thing, We’re better together…”

This is an incredible song that never ceases to put me in a good mood, even after a long day this intro just sends me into a frenzy of relaxation (not sure that’s possible, but I’ve already typed it) this song not only relaxes but evokes so many memories for me. I first heard this song on my way to school in 2005, I very rarely remember where I first heard a song which just shows how exceptional this song is that not only did I remember where I heard it 10 years on but I can still recall the moment exactly, weird huh?

The message of this song is also incredible, I could get all deep and quote someone much smarter than me but to boil it down to its simplest form “Doing things together is better” #nuffsaid. This song really highlights the love for a man and a woman, but I think that this message can be applied to all areas at home, at work, on the field, on stage, etc. The belief that we can do everything on our own is a misguided Hollywood myth that so many of us can take so seriously but, unfortunately, were not all John Rambo, sometimes we need help. For a while I was always trying to “Rambo” most areas of my life, no I don’t mean knifing people in the shins with a homemade bear trap, I would try and do everything solo and not only is it lonely but it’s hard work too.

I think I had a warped view of working as part of a team I felt that it would be people coasting on my good ideas and taking credit but the 9 times out of 10, in my experience, the reason people want to be on your team is because the want to help or learn. I heard a great quote this week that has totally made me view working as part of a team in a totally new light “Teamwork is what the Green Bay Packers were all about. They didn’t do it for individual glory. They did it because they loved one another.” – Vince Lombardi.

This made me think wouldn’t it be awesome if we all took the Green Bay approach to teamwork rather than the Rambo approach, imagine what that would look like. I think that, to quote my wife, “teamwork make the task go better!” when we can shake off this need for personal glory and share victories with others while being developed and helping others develop along the way we can “make the task go better”.

Advertisements

“I have climbed highest mountains… But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for…”

Incredible and timeless classic from U2, perfectly written lyrically and beautiful melody. This is definitely in my top 100 favorite songs of all time, this may not sound very impressive, but I have a lot of music, like a LOT of music.

The premise of this song has got me thinking recently though, so many people I know have done amazing things, have amazing lives, own a lot of cool things but still have this chorus as their mantra, they are discontent and sometimes even made unhappy by what they don’t have or “haven’t found”, why is that?

I include myself in this category, I too often can focus on what I don’t have rather than what I do have. This is a hard topic to write about because although I see the positive in almost everything I can often feel discontent about where I thought I’d be in life by now like, how many good songs I have written or even the fact that I thought I would have at least conquered Nando’s Medium Piri Piri sauce by now (I’m an absolute spice wuss btw). Am I doomed to be caught in between a yo-yo of positivity and discontentment until one day the yo-yo string gets snagged and I am stuck in one of the two camps? How do I break out of this discontentment, or even can I, is it ingrained in my very British DNA to just enjoy moaning and being  slightly sour about most things? As most of my readers are from Hong Kong I will explain that us Brits love to moan, “it’s too hot!”, “It’s too cold!”, “These buses never come!”, “There are too many buses, what a waste of tax payers money!”.

So how do we break free from this mentality?

I wish that there was a boil in the bag method for this to be dealt with, but the only thing that I have found that works for me is to be thankful for what you do have and not envious for what you don’t. Remember that if you are a believer “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above…” (James 1:17) and “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God” (Philippians 4:6). Remember that everything you have is something to be thankful for and what you desire God knows  about it and we should wait on it.

If you are not a believer there is still a great deal to be said for being thankful for the small victories in life, Its amazing how much better you will feel when you take stock of what you do have rather than what you don’t, it can be as big as the well paying job you have or as small as enjoying an ice cold beer at the end of a long week.

So my challenge is to think about what you DO have for the next week and any time you think about having a moan about what you don’t have think of 2 things that you are thankful that you do have and see how you feel by next week.